This train of thought started because of a Twitter trend that's been bugging me for a while, and also because a friend of mine was venting about it recently. There's this thing where people will go around "informing" people to avoid following or interacting with XYZ Person because XYZ Person has been deemed "problematic" in some way. The way in which XYZ Person is problematic is irrelevant to the point of this post, so I'm not going to cite any examples whatsoever. The way in which these people go about "informing" people is really unkind, though. In some cases they go so ...
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It pisses me off how socially acceptable it is to hate kids
It pisses me off how socially acceptable it is to hate kids. People are so casual about it, almost like it's on par with hating broccoli. Except that kids are people. Hating an entire group of people is generally considered Not Okay, but kids? Nah, they don't really matter, right? They'll grow out of it and become likeable when they become adults. I mean, disliking something is valid. On some level I believe that all feelings are valid... but... hating a whole group of people... is that valid? Is that okay? I'm not comfortable with that. On the other hand, there's a ...
Judgment
Being open-minded is overrated, and judgment is not a bad thing I was subjected to a lot of religious indoctrination over the years, and one of the teachings that stood out was the one about not judging people. I'm not going to quote it here, because I can't be bothered to go look up bible quotes, and even just reading them is triggering for me. This isn't even just a religious thing, I've had other people say similar stuff for different reasons. Like, if I have a strong opinion about something, someone would be like "Don't judge so harshly! Be more open-minded! ...
Arguing on the internet is not worth the cost to your mental health
I checked the post history of a Reddit user who said they were feeling very triggered lately... and their post history was full of them arguing with various people in political subreddits. I thought: "well, that's certainly not helping!" Getting involved in internet arguments is really really bad for your mental health! Arguing is a trap - don't fall in it. 99% of the time people won't change their minds anyway. I mean, have you ever seen it happen? I haven't, and I was the admin of a forum for 16 years. In over 500k posts and thousands of dramatic arguments, ...
There Is No Such Thing As “Small Trauma”, and Abuse is Really Common
I've noticed that some people downplay their trauma quite a lot if they didn't experience "big" trauma like physical abuse or sexual abuse. They might say that their traumas are "small" in comparison to "big" traumas like physical or sexual abuse. It's understandable why they would do this, but trauma is not a competition! Trauma is trauma. I was listening to a podcast the other day about trauma. They were talking about how even "minor" things that don't qualify as abuse can cause trauma. As an example the one person recalled a situation where a mother and daughter were walking in ...