This train of thought started because of a Twitter trend that's been bugging me for a while, and also because a friend of mine was venting about it recently. There's this thing where people will go around "informing" people to avoid following or interacting with XYZ Person because XYZ Person has been deemed "problematic" in some way. The way in which XYZ Person is problematic is irrelevant to the point of this post, so I'm not going to cite any examples whatsoever. The way in which these people go about "informing" people is really unkind, though. In some cases they go so ...
Category Archives: Psychology
Judgment
Being open-minded is overrated, and judgment is not a bad thing I was subjected to a lot of religious indoctrination over the years, and one of the teachings that stood out was the one about not judging people. I'm not going to quote it here, because I can't be bothered to go look up bible quotes, and even just reading them is triggering for me. This isn't even just a religious thing, I've had other people say similar stuff for different reasons. Like, if I have a strong opinion about something, someone would be like "Don't judge so harshly! Be more open-minded! ...
The 4F Trauma Responses
The author Pete Walker talks about 4 different trauma responses in his book and on his website. They are: Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Fight response is where the person uses anger and control in order to take their frustrations out on others, to feel more powerful and better than someone else in order to avoid the pain of feeling powerless. They believe that they can create a feeling of safety by having control over the people around them. A lot of narcissists and abusers are fight types. This is probably how a lot of kids turn into bullies. Flight response people strive ...
An Introduction to Empathy, Sociopaths, Narcissists, and Autism
Empathy What is empathy, exactly? Empathy is the ability to recognize and experience the feelings of another person, to see things from their perspective and to understand what they're feeling as if you're feeling it yourself. Since most people don't talk about how they're feeling, the ability to empathize generally depends on interpreting non-verbal cues. If you have never felt what another person is feeling, it will not be possible to empathize with them about that particular feeling. It's also difficult to empathize with others when one is not aware of one's own feelings. Higher emotional sensitivity and awareness leads to higher levels of empathy. ...